1. A push for a quick relationship
2. Jealous and possessive
3. Tries to control your life
4. Unrealistic expectations
5. Isolates you from friends & family
6. Blames others for their problems
7. Makes everyone else responsible for their feelings
8. Says their feelings are easily hurt
9. Cruel to animals and/or children
10. “Playful” use of force during sex
11. Yells and call you names
12. Rigid sex rules
13. Sudden mood swings
14. History of battering
15. Threats of violence
16. Threatens to reveal personal or damaging information about you to your family or employer